The following does not contain any mention of how to spank or how to tie a rope. While these are a staple of BDSM, and doing them well is a worthy pursuit, they are not what defines someone as a Dominate. If you are truly looking to pursue BDSM as a lifestyle there are some very important things that any burgeoning Dom should understand about having and caring for a submissive before you cinch your first knot or swing a paddle.
If you’re just into casual BDSM as a weekend thrill or and occasional release then all that you to be a good submissive is do as you’re told. But if BDSM is more than a hobby for you, then being a good submissive is not just obeying. In my opinion the mark of a good submissive is just not their willingness to submit or need to please, but to whom they choose to submit.
The B and M aspects of BDSM are as widely varied as the participants themselves. However there is one element common across the entire spectrum, and that is the Dominant/submissive relationship. Wikipedia describes it as “complementary, but unequal roles”. I think this is a perfectly elegant description of BDSM play, but the underlying foundation of the D/s relationship is actually very equal. In fact I would argue that it is more balanced than most traditional relationships.
His hand smacks her bare bottom again and she lets out a tiny scream that is a mix of pain and pleasure. He rubs her red raw cheeks and looks at her laying across his lap, her pink panties pulled down to her knees. He lets her down and stands and looks down at her kneeling in front of him, her head bowed.
I will lay her bare and explore the whole of her landscape. With biting kisses tenderly mark every inch of my territory. Discover and conquer every hidden place blushed red with lust and make her lands my empire. In passion enslave them, and in love set them free.
Poem by Bash Quandry